Challenges

      Psalm 56: 9-11
 9 When I cry out to You,
         Then my enemies will turn back;
         This I know, because God is for me.
 10 In God (I will praise His word),
         In the LORD (I will praise His word),
 11 In God I have put my trust;
         I will not be afraid.
         What can man do to me?

It’s noon on Friday, we should be headed home, but here I sit at my sister’s, typing and waiting for word from Pat as to what’s going on with her tests.  Here’s how that happened; Yesterday we had a wonderful dinner and fellowship with family.  My youngest son, his girlfriend and his three sons were there. I haven’t seen him in two years (he lived in Kansas for a while) and I haven’t seen my grand-kids in 5 or 6 years probably.  My oldest grandson is in COLLEGE now and the middle one is an accomplished athlete who’s birthday happened to be this week.  The youngest one was about 4 years old the last time we saw him, so he wasn’t sure he remembered who we were.

Anyway we were on our way home to my sister’s and as soon as we exited the freeway the “check engine” light came on and the car started running extremely rough.  It cut off as we were waiting for her security gate to open, and then sounded like it was “missing” as I put it in reverse to back into the driveway.  Pat said she thought she heard something fall off when we got off the freeway but I looked under the car this morning and there was nothing hanging or seemingly missing.  So this morning Reggie took Pat to her tests and I stayed with the car until the tow truck came.  I am awaiting a call from the mechanic to let me know what is wrong.  It’s all in God’s hand as I have done all I could do to keep the car mechanically sound.  I must trust in Him that he has “plans to prosper me and not to harm me, Plans for hope and a future.”  I refuse to let the enemy take my joy and faith away, my God is bigger than any problem the enemy can throw against me.  I am so blessed that this didn’t happen on the road between Baker and Shoshone where there is no cell service, Thank you my Lord!

Pat had a problem with her breathing, both Tuesday when she climbed the stairs to the second floor and Thursday evening when she walked into the night air.  I’m sending her Oncologist an email about it and see what he says.  I hope to post the results of these stories soon as I am stuck here until at least Monday.

Floyd

“Test Week Trouble” and the – Post from March and May 2011; “American Cancer Society Relay For Life” and “Birthdays”

This past week I noticed a slight wheeze when Pat is breathing.  I also hear the sound of congestion when she coughs, which although isn’t excessive is noticeable.  Yesterday for the first time in a year plus, Pat had to use her oxygen machine to help her catch her breath after a short walk from the restroom to the bed.  She woke up saying she was feeling a a little tired and decided not to go to church.  (the sermon was on Psalm 103) and when I called her before going home she asked me to pick up some Tylenol as she was feeling like she was starting to get a headache.  That was a definite bad sign for me, so I asked her to drink as much water as she could and I would be home as soon as I could get there.  Fortunately by the time I got home and opened the bottle she said the headache feeling was gone.  However, after eating breakfast she said she was still feeling lethargic even after a long nap.  When Marley and I returned from our walk later, she got up and went to the bathroom and when she came out she seemed to be laboring to catch her breath.  I asked her if she wanted to use the oxygen and she said “yes” right away.  I knew that she must be struggling because even two years ago when she was dealing with pneumonia, she never liked using that machine.  I also noticed she seemed a little “giddy” for lack of a better term and wondered if that could be a sign of oxygen deprivation.  It lasted for an hour or so but after she finished dinner, during which she kept the nebulizer on (also unusual for her), she watched a couple hours of TV without it and then went back to bed.  She began to have difficulty catching her breath again so back to the O2 for  a couple more hours before she removed it.  She seemed to be OK then and I fell asleep about a half-hour or so later, fitfully sleeping through the night, waking to listen to her breathing, searching for signs of struggle.  As of the time this writing she is breathing OK but if I notice any problem I will probably convince her we need to take a trip to the E.R., just to be safe.  We’re due to go down tomorrow anyway but better safe early than sorry late! Her infusion is scheduled for Wednesday, we hope to have a joyful meal with the family Thursday, and then Friday do the MRI and CT scan before returning home.  Please pray for us, she needs them, I need them and we are praying for all of you.  For those of you who will be traveling like us, we pray for God’s traveling Grace.  Be safe and God bless you all.

The following is the last of my original blog posts from Yahoo.  It was originally posted in March of this year. (where has the year gone?!)

As some of you might have read in my E-mail, our former next door neighbor is going to be participating in the American Cancer Society’s “Relay for Life” April 30th at his high school Jurupa High School in Mira Loma.  He said it is because of what Pat is going through that he decided to do this.  Pat and I are humbled and honored by his decision and his expression of caring for us.  If you would, take a moment and go to his website and donate whatever you can, it would be greatly appreciated.  In these hard economic times every $5.00 helps.  Thank you to those of you who have already done so, Nicky, Pat and I appreciate it, “More Birthdays” is (are?) a noble cause to fight for.

This is what Nick had to say:

My Reason to Relay

I am participating in the American Cancer Society Relay for Life because: A couple of years ago, a family friend, Pat Santa Marina-Banks, was diagnosed with Lung Cancer, and it spread to her brain. It has been tough, because they live in Nevada, but go to the doctors here in California. Luckily she has a wonderful husband, Floyd, who has not once left her side. His love for his wife is truly amazing and I admire him for that. Pat is a true warrior as she continues her fight against cancer. And Floyd a warrior too, he has remained so strong. Pat has had to deal with everything from a coma in which she temporarily lost her memory to complicated blood problems. And still she battles, with Floyd by her side. Both Pat & Floyd are my true heroes. I admire them, and can only hope that I would be able to carry myself the same way if I were in their situation. I know that Pat will get through this. Because she is a fighter, a warrior, my hero. I am so excited that I will be able to walk in honor of both Pat and Floyd at this year’s Relay for Life. And that is my reason to relay this year! I look forward to this event, and genuinely cannot wait. Please donate to my team, I would be extremely grateful.

PLEASE DONATE WHATEVER YOU CAN. I AM EXTREMELY GRATEFUL FOR ANYTHING THAT CAN HELP FIGHT & END CANCER. IF YOU ARE IN THE AREA, JOIN US AT JURUPA VALLEY HIGH SCHOOL ON APRIL 30! THANK YOU- NICK GARCIA

http://main.acsevents.org/site/TR?px=19382722&pg=personal&fr_id=31870&fl=en_US&et=Ae9pH1bYUEqmzwx8jMAqjQ..&s_tafId=655361

Floyd, Nick, Desi, Mandi and Pat

CURRENTLY (MARCH 2011)
Pat had a relatively easy go this trip and like we suspected the needle they had been using for her blood draw was the wrong size and using the one the infusion nurse gave us to give them was fairly painless according to Pat, if being stuck by needles can be considered painless. She is scheduled to have an MRI and CT scan and then a consult with the oncologist next month to see where she is.  As usual we ask for your prayers that progress has been made.

I haven’t been feeling my best this past week or so, I think I may need a little more sleep, but my main complaint is I seemed to have hurt my back without being able to pinpoint any particular action to have caused it.  The other thing is an onset of slight dizziness that started Saturday evening, Sunday morning.  Again, it could be lack of sleep but I’m not sure.  If you would include me in your prayers I would greatly appreciate it.  I can’t afford to get sick, I just can’t!

A LOOK BACK
At this time last year Pat was at one of her lowest points.  She was coming to the end of her first round of chemo, had lost almost fifty pounds, wasn’t eating at all and Doc Gloom was saying it may be time to “take her home and make her comfortable”.  March 12th will mark the one year anniversary of “Chair Dancing”, the end of Pat’s first round of chemo and to look forward from that day to today shows the power of prayer.  Although we still have “a ways to go” Pat is much stronger and doing far better than the medical staff expected she would be.  GOD IS GOOD!!!  If you haven’t read it, I have included “Chair Dancing”; the blog from Pat James, a fellow chemo patient at the time, as an attachment in the email.  That is what inspired me to start writing my blog.  It tells an incredible story about how Pat is a fighter, and God is definitely on her side.  I am so blessed to have her in my life and I thank God for her every day!

Floyd
P.S  I also included the “Chair Dancing” video attachment from that day.

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AC commented 03/03/2011 06:33 pm

People like Nick keeps the boat of life afloat!

It’s been a while since my last post.  I have been stressing over lack of sleep and some other things.  I do want to say thank you again to Nick for the  American Cancer Society walk, Celebrating Birthdays as it’s theme.  To that theme, I want to say happy birthday to my lovely wife as she celebrated another one last week on the first.  She got calls (one of the best being a chorus of about 9 people from the Chevaliers’) and cards and was very happy to be treated to dinner by Reggie and Yvonne.  Cynthia I am so so sorry we didn’t call you on your day, no excuse, but I had to take a sick day, I spent your birthday basically in bed most of the day and I simply forgot, forgive me.  My brother in law, Reggie celebrated his on the 11th, Pat’s late grandmother had hers on the 5th, my son Carl’s is on the 20th, Pat’s sister and my son Tavis celebrate theirs on the twenty-sixth, I have a niece that has one this coming week and I’m sure I have forgotten a couple others this month.  To all of you CELEBRATE, Celebrate, celebrate!!!

It will be time to have MRI’s and CT scans soon.  I’m sure Pat is so looking forward to being strapped down in those tubes…NOT!  But she troopers on and does what she has to do.  Again we are praying for miracle news and trusting God and his infinite wisdom.  It is all we can do, He has brought us this far.

We miss you all and wish that we were in a position to hang out but the medical advice is to be careful to stay away from groups as we don’t know what colds and other infectious germs could be lurking out there.

I wish I had more news, but all I can say is Pat is a warrior, she deals with this far better than I probably would and we thank you all for you prayers, keep them coming and call Pat and let her know you’re thinking of her.

Floyd

AC commented  05/14/2011 01:18 am

Once over 40, it’s oh no, not another year older. It should be, Oh YES, another birthday! It’s about perception.

Owner replies  05/14/2011 10:51 am

ABSOLUTELY!

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This is the last posting that was originally done on Yahoo before they discontinued their blog site.  I hope and pray everything is going well in your life.

Thank you for reading and sharing our Journey, see you in the next post!

Floyd

Decisions

Well It’s been a week since Pat had the third treatment of this current chemo drug.  She is still sleeping a lot but not quite as much as before.  Her appetite has not returned to normal but it is better than it had been.  We had a second visit with the dentist the day before her infusion as she was having pain in another area of her mouth.  The dentist decided since Pat wasn’t able to determine which tooth was the cause of the pain, that she was probably dealing with an infection in the area.  So rather than pulling a tooth that may not be problematic he decided she should try an anti-biotic and a special germ-killing mouthwash.  As you know Pat has “issues” with antibiotics, as in she is allergic to most.  Pat wasn’t sure she should take the one he prescribed this time, so for the next 3 days we did this “dance” about whether to take it or not.  We even discussed it with the oncologist and he suggested she take it for 5 days rather than the 10 the dentist prescribed.  He also looked up her allergies and said she should be OK with this particular drug.  So Pat decided she would start it the “next day” rather than the day of her infusion.  The next day came and she had changed her mind and was asking questions of me as to whether I thought she should take it, like we hadn’t already discussed this for two days and made a decision.  It was at this point I realized her gut was probably telling her not to take it so I just told her (in a surrendering tone, no less) “if you don’t want to take it, don’t!”  To which she answered “I’m sorry for asking you all these questions”, her code for letting me know she felt like I wasn’t being patient enough with her.  The end result was she didn’t take it and the next day she had  a “digestive issue” which had she taken the anti-biotic I’m sure we would have blamed the issue on it.  So again I learn to trust her judgement (if you haven’t figured it out my vote would have been to take the drug).

We also had a consultation with the oncologist this visit.  He asked if she was ready for a break from the regimen after her next infusion.  He said she seemed to be tolerating the new drug fairly well, a loss of about five pounds wasn’t concerning to him but he said he normally prescribed 4 sessions and then a break.  I expressed my concern about taking a break in that each time in the past when she took a break the cancer would start growing.  He stated it was her decision and if she wanted to continue she could.  He was just thinking she might want a break for Christmas, but the decision was hers.  Ultimately what we decided was that we would have the MRI and CT scan done on the next visit and based on the results of those tests we would make the choice of continuing or breaking.  We discussed the new targeted chemo treatment for persons with the “ALK” gene but he said she wasn’t a candidate for that as she had a cancer primarily caused by smoking and involving a brain metastasis which most experimental treatments would disqualify her from using.  He also explained to us that each successive chemo treatment he was using targets a different step in the reproductive process of the cancer.    I also asked him about Pat being in the casino restaurants with the second hand smoke that abounds there.  He said that isn’t a problem, he would be more concerned about her being around the people.  That was a HUGE relief for me as I thought that maybe her eating in restaurants with the odor of the smoking might have contributed to the cancer growing.

We watched a program  called “The Wayman Tisdale Story” the other day.  According to a cousin of mine, when Wayman visited the Boy’s Club my uncle directed a few years ago, he discovered we are related.  For those of you who may not know who he was; he was a jazz musician that played the bass and had 8 CD’s (or 9 if you count the “best of” CD) and that was after a 12 year career in the NBA.  He played on the Olympic basketball team in 1984 along with future dream team members Michael Jordan, Patrick Ewing and Chris Mullin winning a gold medal in Los Angeles.  He was the second player picked in the 1985 NBA draft following Patrick Ewing.  He was diagnosed with Osteosarcoma in March 2007 after falling and breaking a leg in his home.   This cancer is normally one that attacks young adults in their teens or early twenty’s, Wayman was 42 at the time.  The leg was later amputated but that didn’t stop him from continuing his career as a musician until May of 2009 when he died.  Pat and I had a chance to see him play and speak with him a couple of years before he was diagnosed, but we didn’t know we were related at that time.  I read something recently that he said, something I will hold close;

“You can never give up because quitting is not an option. No matter how dark it is or how weak you get, until you take that last breath, you must fight.” ~ Wayman Tisdale (1964-2009)

l was looking at her results from her last blood tests this morning, (I would normally review them with the nurses at the time of her infusion but because of the oncologist’s consultation, I missed it).  They showed an abnormally high white cell count.  It has doubled since the test done September 22nd.  I know that she was fighting the tooth problem in October and then again this last visit and since she hasn’t run a fever I’m not overly concerned.  She professes to feeling well and has not complained of chills so right now I’m just keeping an eye on her for any warning signs.  It is probably just her body fighting the tooth infection as she didn’t take the anti-biotic this time and wasn’t prescribed any the first time.  All in all, we are waiting on the Lord, His will be done.  We are still praying for healing and are thankful for each day we awake and can give Him praise.  Please pray with us and for us that her test results are good news and know that we ask God to bless each and every one of you every day.

Floyd

THE DENTIST

This past trip we finally got Pat to a dentist to have those two teeth that were fractured removed.  He was very friendly and spent some time with us asking about Pat’s condition and her journey up to this point in time.  He then shared something with us that I consider being another of God’s  numbered steps for us.  He said that in addition to him being a dentist (and an anesthesiologist) he was also involved with a group of doctors that have developed a new “virus” that attacks cancer cells, while not affecting healthy cells, destroying them and allowing the body’s own immune system to then remove the dead cancer cells from the body.  He said the drug has completed phase one clinical trials currently in England, is now awaiting approval for trials here in the U.S. and that they are looking to finalize a decision on which of two perspective drug companies will be chosen to distribute the drug.  He told Pat he wanted us to stay in touch as he believes she could be helped by this new treatment.  (See Genelux.com)  After some further research, I have found that there are a couple of other companies developing this same type of therapy, all with very promising results.

He also gave me a book to read, authored by a friend of his, entitled “The Power of Crying Out”.  It talks about how speaking to God increases the power of prayer and helps to have Him answer our prayers.  It helps to reinforce my faith in prayer and increase my prayer strength.

It is now four weeks, three days and two treatments into Pat’s new chemo treatment.  She is on a drug called Taxotere.  It is administered intravenously over about a 90 minute period.  It requires her to take a regimen of steroids the day before, the day of and the morning after the treatment.  The steroids tend to make her a little sleepless the first night and keep her awake the day of and the day after her treatment (she does sleep the night after treatment). This means she stays awake the whole drive home and she’s a busybody when we get home, not exactly conducive to me getting rest after the long trip.

(I got a little grumpy this time, not overtly, just that I would put the TV on pause when she would come in the room to ask me questions and then give the shortest answer possible.  Her feelings were hurt and I of course felt like a jerk, but at the same time I feel like I deserved to rest when I got home.  That travel day coming home is beginning to get a little rough for me, get up, pack the car, make the drive, unpack the car, go get the dog from the kennel…I’m beat when I get home and I just want to sit and vegetate.  OK, OK, I know..Shut up and deal with it.  I just had to say something to help me not feel so bad about hurting her feelings.)

In the 10 days since her last treatment, she has had a lack of appetite and sleeps a lot, I mean a LOT!  She may get up by noon, stay up long enough to drink a half cup of tea, go back to bed for an hour or so, get up and eat a small amount, go back to bed sleep a couple more hours, get up watch an hour or so of TV, back to sleep, then up long enough to have dinner, (what little she may eat) then watch TV until midnight or later.  I am concerned about her low appetite but I was hoping that by Wednesday or Thursday she would have returned to normal and that she would be OK, as she was the last treatment three week ago. (unfortunately she hasn’t quite done so this time)  I am going to email her oncologist to make sure he thinks this is expected behavior, but the last time (before this new Taxotere treatment) I mentioned to him that I thought she might be sleeping too much, he said sleeping helps the body heal so…?

Update: as of the time of this publishing, Saturday morning, she did eat better both for breakfast/brunch and dinner on friday.

We had a visit while we were in town from our buddy Chevalier.  He brought a video of a birthday gathering we had at our home in Riverside on my 44th birthday weekend.  Woo-wee we looked young then (relatively speaking as young as you can look at 44, that is).  It’s so good to relive happy times, too bad Pat couldn’t talk much, she had a mouth full of gauze from her tooth extraction earlier in the day.  Anyway I’m running out of things to say so I guess I’ll shut up (or stuff my mouth with gauze)!

Thanks for listening, God bless you all, we love you.

Floyd

Galatians 6:9

 9And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.

(Words for me to live by)

Re-Post of Happy New Year, Pat is Sleeping and Something About Old Music

  • These are three posts I did earlier this year, (wow where did this year go?)
  • Happy New Year
    • |01/03/2011 06:29 pm

This is a new year.    That may be an over-simplified stating of an obvious fact but, it is just that, a new year.

We saw the Dr. this past week to get the results of Pat’s CT-scan.  His news was this; the mass in her lung is “stable” and although the treatment had not shank the mass, it had not spread.  Most importantly, there were no signs of it returning to her brain.  Also the pleural effusion, (fluid around her heart) was gone.  While that may not seem to be the best news, it could have been much, much worse.  So, our options were; 1.) Take a break from chemo or; 2.) Continue the current treatment.  Yes, Pat immediately chose #2.  She doesn’t want to give it a chance to start growing again as it did the last time she took a break.  The Dr. said Pat was doing better than he ever expected, that her numbers were still good (her hemoglobin count did go up this week) and as he put it “You look really good, you eyes are clear and you seem stronger, I didn’t expect you to do this well”.  The Dr. did offer a third option, he said that he could add an additional medication to the regimen but was afraid that it might do more damage than good so we are keeping that in mind as another possible course of action.  As for right now, we will be continuing the treatment until March when again they will do a CT-scan and probably an MRI to see if any progress has been made.

Although the Dr. says he sees the treatment as stabilizing more than eradicating, he was willing to admit that he didn’t expect Pat’s “progress” to be at this level.  I think he is starting to see Pat is not the typical patient.  We believe all your (and our) prayers have a lot to do with the continued progress.  Please continue to pray for us, we cannot win this fight without prayer.  We are so thankful to God for bringing us this far and will continue to thank Him for all our future blessings.  Pat is in great spirits and other than worrying about me getting tired of driving (which I am not), she is doing pretty well.  She is doing well mentally, and seems to be getting stronger each day.  Her main problems are numbness and pain in her feet which makes it difficult for her to walk, and pain in her back which flares up several times a day and sometimes wakes her up at night.  Neither we nor the Dr. are sure if the pain is post-hepatic neuropathy from the shingles or pain from the cancer.  It lasts from several seconds to minutes and sometimes it is an itch and sometimes it seems to be like a muscle spasm.  Anyway massaging it seems to help until the pain subsides.

We came home after spending Christmas dinner with my family to find the street in front of our home washed out.  About 1/3 of the street had sank 2-3 feet and there is a sinkhole about 20 feet wide and 50 feet long that envelopes the street and the easement and part of my front landscaping!  It was caused by the rain not being able to drain through the culvert under our driveway fast enough.  The road department says they can’t fix it until it dries up and this Sunday night we got seven, yes 7 inches of SNOW!  (When it rains it snows!)  OK bad pun.  Anyway it will probably be 3-4 weeks at best before they can start working on it.  Meanwhile there is another crack developing right down the center of the street that started as a single hairline fracture and is now 3-4 separate cracks that are in some places wide enough to stick a nickel in.  That has happened over the span of 9 days.  I talked to the guys from the road department on Monday and they said they will make sure I can get in and out of my driveway when I need to.  Let’s hope they’re right.

So as I look out my window this morning the mountains and hills north of us look like a scene from the movie “High Plains Drifter”, just beautiful.  I say Thank you Lord for allowing us another day, another start to “a new year”.  Calling it “just that, a new year” doesn’t do it the true justice it deserves, for it is really a miracle to be here.

Happy New Year!
Floyd

Sandra commented

Hello Floyd I will continue to keep Pat in my prayers. God is taking care of this now keep the faith.

Sandra (Banks) Rose

Yard Dog commented

As the saying goes; The greatest wealth is health. You two have hit the jackpot. Happy NEW Year!

Pat is Sleeping

  • |02/05/2011 01:33 pm

I haven’t written for a while, I guess you could call it a version of writer’s block, not that I profess to being anything close to a writer.

We want to thank Doug and Sandra for their hospitality on such short notice this week.  Reggie and Yvonne’s and Damon, Velma’s and Martha’s homes each had some level of sickness, so we needed a germ-free environment and they, Doug and Sandra, were gracious enough to put us up for the night.  Thanks again guys, and the meal was great!  Also we offer our prayers to Damon’s Brother Ricky, Doug’s nephew Willie and our friend Pat, (that we used to work with) as they are going through some serious health issues of their own.  I would ask that all of you who read this, ask God for His healing Grace for them as well.  All of you friends and family have been so supportive to us through your prayers and thoughts, we want you to know that it means so much to us and we thank you for all you have done.  Thanks also to Precious for the Vitamin Water and to Mom for the juice!

Pat is sleeping right now.  It’s almost two in the afternoon.  She woke up with a little nausea and so after half a cup of tea she decided to go back to bed.  I am sitting here with Marley (yes he’s napping too), trying not to be too concerned about her little episode.  That is most of my battle, trying not to fret over every little hiccup, cough, and hesitation and misspeak that she makes.  Yes I realize my job is to be observant but hyper-vigilance is stressful beyond measure.  I don’t want to miss something that could cause a big problem later.  I have found over the course of the last 19, yes 19 months, watching and waiting is harder than all the other things I do physically.  I would rather be doing nothing else though.

Pat’s last treatment went well, although she was a little dizzy when she stood up to leave.  She is really glad she got the port implanted as it makes the treatment easier.  No more 4-6 sticks trying to find the veins, both for the blood test the day before and for the infusion itself.  She has made it through 3 treatments since the end of the year, with only a couple of minor problems.  She developed a pain in her right leg near the hip joint similar to the one she had 6-8 months ago, but not nearly as severe and it seemed to get better after the infusion, so I attribute it to her not hydrating enough (since they pump her with saline while they give her the chemo, it seems to support my theory, but what do I know?).  The other problem of course, was the nausea this morning; we’ll wait and see if that is anything.  We decided to come straight back after treatment as Pat has wanted to do, and she slept most of the way.   I was a little tired but through God’s help we made it home safely.

I sent out a new blog for New Year’s but I didn’t say that in the Email so most of you might have missed it.  It included a picture of the mountains outside our front door.  We had just had 4-6 inches of snow the night before and it stayed on the ground in the shade for more than two weeks.  They finally worked on the street that washed out in front of our home, but I am not convinced that we aren’t going to have more problems the next time we get heavy rain.  Oh well, the joys of rural living huh?

I don’t have much to say so …I guess I’ll end!We love you all.

AC commented

Tell Marley to quit hamming up the photos. We know he can roll over. If he wants to impress us, have him drive you two to Pat’s treatments!

Nadirah Maát commented

You go Girl!!! I love you both!!!!

“B” “B” commented

Thanks for reading. Why not leave a comment or sign the guest book to the left of the blog? Pat would love to read to hear from you!!

Pat has started listening to our old music from before we moved to Nevada on our trips down to California.  We had been listening to music loaded on the iPod but she now brings our CD cases and plays music she used to listen to when she worked at the park.  I’ve noticed it has seemed to bring back “the old Pat”, so to speak.  It’s kind of hard to explain but it seems that hearing the old music takes her back to before she started going through all this.  I see her dancing in her seat as we roll down the road like she used to do whenever we were in the car.  It is beautiful!  I believe her spirit feels the way it did before all the surgery, the treatments, the medication and she just feels like her old self again.  So thank you Paul Taylor, Kem, Sting, Euge Grove, Richard Elliot, George Benson, Pieces of a Dream, Maxwell and especially The Isleys.  There are some special songs that she just lights up when she hears and my heart just soars to see that.

As far as her treatment goes, we had some challenges this trip.  The blood draw nurse could not get the port to allow her to draw blood.  It would flush but would not draw blood.  They tried adjusting the depth of the needle, having Pat lay down, raise her arm and none of those things helped.  Though it was painful for Pat, and disconcerting for the nurses, they decided to take the needle out and try inserting a new needle.  Unfortunately, that did not solve the problem.  So after much consternation Pat made the decision to go to the Lab to try to draw blood from her arm.  Pat decided she would rather do that than to wait and get it done an hour before her treatment the next day.  Luckily, (Thanks to God) they had a good lab tech downstairs, a 25 gauge needle, and a cooperative vein in Pat’s arm and they got it in one try.  The lab tech was glad to see Pat and told her how good she looked and that she was happy that everything was going well.  She was one of the few that worked with Pat before she got the port, so she knew all about Pat’s “adventures” at blood draw time.

Infusion Day:  We were hoping that there wouldn’t be the same problem with the port the next day, but knowing the chemo treatment was “putting the chemical in” and not trying to take it out, we figured it would be OK.  Still, we needed to let the infusion nurse know there had been a problem so if the port was malfunctioning it could be checked.  The nurse said it could be that something had grown over the tip of the port tube so that when you forced liquid in, it would open but when you tried to draw out it would close over the tube like a one-way valve.  She checked around the port and said everything looked fine and when she inserted the needle it flushed fine and then she drew back on it and success, the blood came out.  She and Pat came to the conclusion that the blood draw nurse was using the WRONG size needle for the port.  It’s a butterfly style needle but they come in two different lengths.  The infusion room always uses the shorter length; the blood draw nurse had been using the longer style.  The shorter one allows the base of the butterfly to come in contact with the surface of the port, which I believe leaves just enough space to allow the blood to flow into the needle, instead of the point of the needle being jammed against the inside of the tube. Anyway, everything seemed to go well, she finished her treatment without a hitch.  When they completed her infusion, they gave her a proper sized needle to take with us to the blood draw next time, one less hurdle to jump.  Hopefully they can order some of those if they don’t have them, for the future.

Some of you know that I raise koi.  For those of you who don’t, they are those large, colorful carp-like fish you see in Japanese garden ponds.   I have had them for almost 15 years now and I usually get them, (when I buy new ones) from a guy in Riverside.  We have developed a friendship of sorts, so last year when I was there and I asked how his sons were, I found it strange when he said simply “Don’t ask”.  I stopped by this trip to get some koi food and I found out he had lost his youngest son to a motorcycle accident at that time last year.  The two of them had restored an old Harley the dad used to ride and the son had taken a corner too fast and crashed.  This is the second son of a friend we have had this happen to in the last year.  The father said “I designed the bike to go 50, but he was always coming home telling me how fast he had gotten it to go, he was just hell-bent on destruction”.  My wife and I are just devastated as he was a really good kid, we will miss him.                                                        Floyd, Terry, Robert

Shiloh commented; Always thinking of you! Hugs and lots of kisses and prayers!

Owner replies; Thank you so much, and I hope all is going well with your new endeavor.

AC commented; Try to “visualize” a world without music. I can’t!

Owner replies; Simply…Absolutely not!

Third Time’s The Charm

Well Pat has had her first treatment of the third round of drugs, meaning she had the first round from November  ’09 until March ’10.  She had a 4 month break from then until the second round started July 12, 2010 which lasted until September 8, 2011.  This by the way was a “record” according to her oncologist.  He said when he prescribed that treatment for her that he expected her to be on it for about 3 months, 6 at the most and she was on it 14, yes 14 months.  Never in his 11 years of doing oncology has a patient be on that treatment for that long.  God is Good!

So now we embark on the next phase, the third phase of this Journey.  It has had somewhat of a slow start.  She has had a falling off, so to speak of her appetite and seems to be a little lethargic but the literature on this medication said to expect lower energy levels and some appetite loss.  But as Popeye used to say, “I am who I am” and I am going to be “concerned”  not worried, but concerned.  I will be doing what I can to help her eat more and get rest but the problem is going to be getting her to drink enough fluids.  She had been doing well until this weekend, I suspect the new medication has something to do with it.

We also had a welcomed visit from Antwine and Cynthia Monday.  (That is Antwine on the right edge in the picture above)  It seemed to cheer Pat up.  We looked at some pictures of past trips and videos of trips to Mexico and realized we have done a lot of things in our lives.  God has been good to us and we have had good lives.  He said our future days will be greater than our former days, I am standing on that promise.

Floyd

Exodus 23:25  And ye shall serve the LORD your God, and he shall bless thy bread, and thy water; and I will take sickness away from the midst of thee.

Thank you Lord for my mom’s stay in the hospital not being something serious.  She is back home, feeling much better and says she’s resting comfortably.  Those of you who know my mom know that’s probably more wishful thinking than fact, the “resting” part at least.

STEELED

Steel

(noun) 4. Toughness, determination, toughness or great strength of character

(adjective) Strong or Hard, like steel, especially in strength or hardness

(transitive verb) 1. Strengthen somebody for ordeal: To make someone unfeeling or tough enough to stand a setback or trial

Jeremiah 29:11

11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

The news came from the Doctor this past Tuesday, Pat will have to change chemo drugs.  The CT-scan showed growth of the tumor in her lung which indicates the current chemo is no longer as effective as it has been or that the tumor has adjusted to the drug.

For once Dr. Gloom, the oncologist was not pessimistic in his view or his delivery of this news.  Instead of his usual “It may be time to take her home and make her comfortable” speech, he went straight to explaining the next course of treatment he was planning before asking Pat, ” You do want to continue, don’t you?”  (Score one for Pat, she has always said she would change his mind of how she was going to survive this.)  While I at first was discouraged by this news, I am focusing on the size of my God not the size of our problem and convinced something good shall come of this.  My mother reminded me that my aunt, who is well above seventy, had her chemo changed several times before they found one that worked so I am praying that this is the “one” for Pat.  She is as usual steeled in her resolve to defeat this with God’s help.

The nurse called to explain the new treatment will be once every three weeks for two hours at a time, which doubles her chair time but cuts the number of treatments in half.  (formally she spent about an hour in treatment, two of every three weeks)  As always we ask for your prayers, just a “Father, please make the medicine take the cancer from her body and give her strength to do battle” is good but whatever you pray, it is appreciated.  I thank you for your continued support, and pray that all in your life goes well.

Isaiah 58:8
Then your light shall break forth like the morning, Your healing shall spring forth speedily, And your righteousness shall go before you; The glory of the LORD shall be your rear guard.

Floyd

P.S. I was going to wait until after the treatment to post this but, “no time like the present right?”

Also, I have re-posted the last three posts from 2010 after this.

Re-post of “Thanksgiving”, “Well Done” and “Two Four Six”

·        Thanks Giving

    • |11/25/2010 01:38 pm

Today is Thanksgiving.  Let that sink in for a minute.  Thanks Giving.  What do you have to give thanks for?  Probably most of you have read the email about how we here in America have more than 90% of the world when it comes to clean water, a roof over our heads, an auto, food to eat, etc.  So why are we always complaining?  It’s because we have been used (most of us) to having all of these things from birth.  Some of us have had the opportunity to visit countries where this is not the case.  Hopefully, this has remained with us.  I remember a trip I took many years ago with my BFF to one of those countries. We were out in a small boat fishing, when he asked our fishing guide, who worked for the resort company, “How much would it cost to buy your own boat and set up your own fishing business?”   His answer, if I remember correctly, was that it wasn’t much more than a couple hundred dollars or so.  (To this day I still wish we could/would have given him that money)  I still think of what that may have done for him, his family and maybe generations to come.

How many of my friends and family are blessed?  All of them from my view, and I hope they all feel the same.  Have we had bumps and bruises along the way?  Absolutely!  Have we had true joy along the way?  I would be hard pressed to say I haven’t had probably, more than my share and again I would hope they would say the same.  I can remember laughing to tears with all my friends and most of my family at different times in my life and going through some very sad times.  But in the grand scheme of things I have had more good than bad times.

I say this even now, going through what my wife is dealing with, I am thankful.  I am thankful, to wake up this morning and look at my wife, sleeping peacefully.  I am thankful to watch her as she dresses herself, remembering when she couldn’t even get out of bed by herself.   I am thankful that she wants to and is able to cook thanksgiving dinner, (I am helping, a little) moving around without her cane.  I remember when she couldn’t get off the couch without me carrying her.  I am thankful she is able to do all the things she does even though her feet are almost in constant pain and always numb.  I am watching her right now playing hearts on her computer and winning!  I remember several times last year when she didn’t know me or her own mother sitting right next to her.  I told my cousin’s fiancée yesterday; I have watched as every time it seemed the door was closing, God would open up the windows of heaven and pour out a blessing.  I thank Him for that every day, several times a day.

What do I have to be thankful for?  Well, first and foremost, I thank God for being my Father, with all the blessings that that brings with it.  I am thankful I have all of you, friends and family that pray for us and thank you for that.

So I say this, I am thankful to have my wife with me this day, this Thanksgiving Day, but I have learned for me, every day is a thanks giving day.  To all of you Happy Thanksgiving!

Floyd

December 7, 2010 7:15 p.m. EST

I know this is my blog about Pat and her Journey, but I feel the need to say a few words about today’s event.

Today Elizabeth Edwards died from complications of breast cancer.  I was tempted to say she “lost her battle with cancer” like most of the news stories are saying.  From what little I as an outsider could see, she decided to leave as she lived, on her own terms.  With all she has dealt with, the loss of her son, the problems with her marriage, the remission, then the return and spread of her cancer, she lived with dignity and courage, in her own way.  Yes she deferred to her husband’s campaign when she first suspected she had cancer and who knows whether that may have played a part in how her cancer advanced.  We will never really know but that was her choice.  Was it the best choice for her health?  We can never really know but we do know she made that choice because that was how she wanted to live her life.  So, as we look at this passing, did she lose her battle with cancer?  I BEG TO SAY NO.  I think she fought the fight, and did the things she needed to do.  She stood for her causes, made peace with John knowing that if she did not live to see her children reach maturity they needed to see their father in the way she would want them to see him, not as a failed husband but as a loving father.  That is courage and love, for the children if nothing else.  Ultimately she decided to stop treatment and be with the people in her life that were most important to her at the end.  I don’t see that as losing a battle as much as deciding on what terms you will live the rest of your days here on earth.  She said it this way, “The days of our lives, for all of us, are numbered.  We know that.”  How true that statement is but how many of us live like we really believe it?  I would hope that I could meet that time in my life with the courage and wisdom that she has shown.

The treatment Pat had this week was supposed to have been the last one before having a CT scan done and then taking a “break” from the chemo.  We weren’t sure how we felt about that as the last “break” allowed the cancer to start growing again after it had been shrinking from the first round of chemo.  Granted, that treatment was doing serious damage as far as Pat’s ability to eat and function.  She had lost close to fifty pounds and was having all sorts of other problems.  Yes, it (the “break”) was needed; although she is convinced it lasted too long before we started the next round of treatment.

As she was in the infusion room this time, waiting for them to start her treatment, the pharmacist came out and asked her when her CT scan was scheduled and said she had noticed that there weren’t any further treatments scheduled.  Pat told her she was supposed to see the oncologist in three weeks and he was to make a decision then as to what we would do at that point.  The pharmacist said that since her blood work numbers still looked good, she was going to talk to the Dr. about maybe continuing the treatments until the results come back from the test.  I was out of the room when this happened so Pat asked the pharmacist to come back and explain it to me when I returned.  It sounded like a good idea to me as long as Pat was tolerating the chemo as well as she was.  We had been discussing what we were going to do about her coming to the end of this round of treatment.  She was saying that while she was still doing well and feeling strong that she wanted to continue some sort of treatment.   She is very strong in her belief that God is in control and I share that with her, although being a man I sometimes feel like I should stick my fingers in there to do something.  Not so with Pat.  She resisted my suggestion that maybe we should change Doctors and said to wait until we get to the consult after the CT scan.  She is right (as she usually is) and I have learned to make suggestions to her and let her make the final decision, to wait on God.

The doctor and the Pharmacist consulted and decided to add: Two more cycles, which is four more treatments, over six more weeks. I asked Pat if that was what she wanted and she said “I told you God would work this out”.  “Two, Four, Six” is what He has said and we will stand on that.  We are prayerful that this will do what we want it to do and accepting of what God intends it to do.

As we go through this phase, she will need to try to eat certain foods to help keep her hemoglobin levels up as the chemo is causing them to drop, but other than that she is doing really well. (I’m probably opening a can of worms but, any suggestions?)  Everyone that sees and talks to her says she looks good and seems to be getting and sounding stronger.  That is so encouraging and I for one have been in awe of how she is handling this, with grace and strength.  She is still helping others with their crises, because that is who she is.  She asked me a few days ago if I thought she could go back to work.  (Where did that come from?!  As far as that goes I told her she has a job, it is to get well.)  She has been moving around the house without her cane, cooking and doing other things.  Right now as I am typing this, I hear her in the kitchen banging pots around; it is so inspiring to watch…God is so amazing.  I can remember where she was 365 days ago.

So as we come to this Christmas season we wish you all, Peace and God’s Love.  We pray for traveling grace and God’s protection for you.  We thank you as we always do for your prayers and we send ours for you.  To those of you who helped us last year staying with Pat when I was still working, know that your help was immeasurable and I cannot thank you enough.  To all of you, try to stop and remember what this season is really about, forgiveness, and thank Him for His Blessings, both seen and unseen.  Make an effort to let go of at least one burden you have been holding on to for too long.  Believe me, there really is more to life than holding on to grudges and hurt.  Letting go leaves more room in your heart for love and happiness and believe me time is short, no matter how long you have.  Remember, opening your hand to let go leaves it open to receive God’s gifts.  But I bet you already know that.

Merry Christmas,

Floyd

Psalm 91:1-2;  The one who lives under the protection of the Most High dwells in the shadow of the Almighty.  I will say to the Lord “My refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.”

Thank You Lord

Well, we had a better than good week.  Let me tell you what I mean.  I have a niece that attends college in Colorado and this week she was suppose to return to school after her summer break.  She and my sister were going to drive back to school Tuesday morning.  They weren’t on the freeway for more than a mile when they struck a large object, spun off the road and rolled ninety feet down the freeway embankment.  I know, you’re asking “How is that having a good week?”.  Well if you saw the car, then realized there were many other cars on the freeway at the time, none of which struck them, and they basically came through this with relatively minor injuries, you would understand why I say it was a good week.  Yes the car was totaled, but God protected them from major injuries and “stuff” can be replaced.  Yes it may mean some extra recovery time when my niece can’t practice with the team but it could have been a lot worse (and I’m sure she will find something productive to work on in place of the practice time).  So, all in all, it was a good week.  As far as our trip, we had a little (a very little) incident of our own driving down.  At the agriculture stop, the car behind us didn’t stop at the same time I stopped and we got “bumped”.  Not even enough to show a mark but a bump none the less.  It could have been worse, but the Lord’s hedge of protection was around us and we are thankful for it.

Pat’s treatment went well, no problems with the port or blood draw.  She was scheduled to have a CT scan and MRI on Friday morning but when I went down Thursday morning to remind them that they would need a nurse to set up the contrast to Pat’s port, they found out there wouldn’t be one available in time to do it before the test so they changed her test appointment to later Friday morning. Later Thursday afternoon after her chemo I went down to see if maybe they could squeeze us in for the CT scan that afternoon and they did.  When that test was done I asked if there was an opening to do the MRI that afternoon and yes there was.  Oh, and Pat’s oncologist, according to his scheduling nurse, was not going to be in the office on the days we were scheduled for the next month and a half.  This meant we wouldn’t be able to talk to him about her test results for two months.  Well as we were leaving the chemo lab, who happens to walk by us but “Dr. Gloom” himself!  We stopped him and explained the situation and he says “That’s OK I will call you or send you an Email and we can communicate that way, no problem”.  So once again Pat has the Lord’s favor watching over her and we got everything done on Thursday instead of having to wait until the next day and and having to be in the Friday afternoon traffic to go home.

While Pat was receiving her treatment, there was a lady next to us also receiving treatment.  I overheard part of a phone conversation she was having during which she said “There are about fifteen people having treatment here and I’m the only one that doesn’t have anyone here with me”.  I missed an opportunity to tell her “You are never alone, God is always with you” as I didn’t want to interrupt her call, and then afterward each time I turned to her she was writing in her checkbook or reading some other work document but it was still a chance I missed out on and I am sorry that I didn’t take that opportunity.  I just hope that the next time I see her I make up for it.  Believe me, Pat going through this is hard enough with me being there, but going through it alone for someone, I can’t imagine how difficult that would be.

So thank you Lord for giving me the strength to be here for Pat and I trust in you that you wouldn’t have put me in this position without providing the resources to accomplish the  task at hand.  I thank you that you said, “I am blessed and cannot be cursed” that, “You will prosper me even in the dessert”, and that “everything I touch will prosper”.  I am standing on those  promises.

Your humble servant,

Floyd

P.S. Thanks to all of you that viewed the “Jackson Family Reunion” slideshow on YouTube.  As of Saturday morning I had 110 views, far more than I expected.  If you haven’t seen it and wish to, here is the link;

http://www.youtube.com/tch?v=kBHGqGPNdjA

Repost of “Big Stick Popsicles” and “Blessings and Passings” Nov 2010

I guess you can see I have changed my theme picture.  It’s from one of our “breakfast Club” dinners years ago.

At 63 miles per hour it takes Pat 12.5 miles to eat a Popsicle, how many minutes is that?  On average we listen to 119 songs in the car per trip.  Unfortunately, Pat is now averaging 6 needle-sticks per trip which brings me to this post’s update.

The nurses, both in the infusion room and at the lab, have had such a hard time finding her veins the oncologist has scheduled Pat for surgery to implant a “Power-Port”.  It is a device to allow them to draw blood without having to stick her multiple times to find her extremely elusive veins.  We were hoping to be able to complete her current round of chemo (only three more to go) without having this done, but the veins just aren’t cooperating.  We have been resistant to have this done, not wanting to have another set of potential side effects to deal with.  So as always we are trusting God will get us through this new task, He hasn’t failed yet.  What a testimony we have!

As far as her condition otherwise, she is doing well!  She is eating well and gaining weight each week (which she complains about) and seems to be gaining strength.  She is still dealing with foot numbness (from the chemo) and back pain (which we think is the result of having the shingles) but all things considered, she is handling this well.  What a Warrior!  Everyone that calls says how amazed they are at how good she sounds.  She recently talked to a couple of people that have just found out what she is going through and they say she sounds like there is nothing wrong.

We received a letter from an old friend we hadn’t heard from for years who read about her on this blog.  I am hoping he will be able to visit soon, it will be good to see him after all the things he has been through.  Any way it goes, Keep Your Head UP!

To all of you that call and comment here on the blog and Pray, Thank you.  It does her (and me) a lot of good to see how much you care and we want you to know that we send our prayers for you to God.

I guess I’ll keep this one brief, I pray all is going well and good wishes to you all!

Floyd

Yard Dog commented  11/15/2010 10:37 pm

Sorry, I’m just getting around to reading this post. I must have missed the notification. Anyway, we enjoyed watching MNF with u, Pat & Reg

Nadirah Maát commented  11/02/2010 08:28 pm

You are both a blessings to me…I am truly thankful for our friendship. Peace and light.ps. Marvin sends his love:)

Owner replies  11/03/2010 11:17 am

Thank you and you to us. Tell Marvin we said hello also!

daniel spitulski commented  11/02/2010 10:22 am

We send our prayers for Pat and also for you Floyd. Love Danny and Nancy

Owner replies11/03/2010 11:19 am

Thank you, I hope everything is going well for you and believe me I need and appreciate the prayers.

“B” “B” commented  I have no clue why the publish date shows 12/31/1969 ?!?1

Our first blessing is that Pat had her Port-a-Cath surgery and it went well.  The port-a-cath they implanted will help with her future treatments and blood tests so that they won’t have to stick her more than once.  She said it hurts a little, but that it is getting better. The surgeon that did it was the assistant chief surgeon so again God put her in good hands.  The surgery took about an hour or so and she said she doesn’t remember much.

On a sadder note, her grandmother’s sister, “Aunt Carrie” passed this week.  Another of the great prayer-warriors of the family has gone to be with the Lord and she will be missed.  Our prayers and condolences go out to her sisters, brother, children and grandchildren and all our cousins.  Unfortunately, due to Pat’s treatment, we won’t be able to make it to the funeral but we will be there in our hearts.  We ask that you please pass this on to the family at the service.  Also on the same day of Aunt Carrie’s passing, my Cousin Pat’s husband, Jerome, lost his brother.  He will also be missed.  To Jerome and his family we offer the same love and heartfelt condolences.  To both families, may God grant you all, traveling Grace.

One other blessing we had this trip was to be able to visit with the Dr. that performed Pat’s brain surgery last year.  He was very happy to see Pat and said she looked good and that seeing her was the best gift he could get from her.  He happened to be in a meeting when we got there, but when they told him Pat was there, he came right out and spent about 10 – 15 minutes with us.  He seemed genuinely happy to see her and the progress she is making.  We finally had a chance to see him and thank him in person for helping to save her life.  It was an emotional moment for me, but I tried to hold up and not show it!  We also ran into the Dr. from the emergency room the night Pat was diagnosed.  He also seemed genuinely glad to see how well Pat is looking.

Pat has two more treatments to go in this current round of chemo, then a break of undetermined length.  The Oncologist has not communicated to us what, if any, plan he has for future treatments.  It really doesn’t matter, for everything is in God’s Plan.  The results from her CT scan and MRI of her brain will probably determine if she needs further treatment but with God’s blessing we may not need to be concerned with that.  We ask that all of you take a moment and ask God to place His healing touch on Pat and His wisdom on anyone that will have anything to do with her care, both now and in the future.  I would also humbly ask for your prayers for strength and guidance for me.

I know this is supposed to be Pat’s Journey but I just feel the need to say something here about what I have learned in this past year and a half.  I have learned what true strength is from Pat as I have watched her battle this fierce disease.  I have learned what true trust in God is when I had nowhere else to turn.  I have seen His works when I saw Pat at her lowest and didn’t know what else to do but pray.  I am still learning to trust in Him when things come up, to see that He has a plan that I don’t need to know, but just need to trust.  I also would like to share something and I say this in the utmost humility, I don’t feel that I am doing anything extraordinary when it comes to doing what I am doing for Pat.  I promised God to love her “in sickness and in health” and maybe at the time I didn’t give that much thought, but it is a promise to God that I intend to keep to the best of my ability.  I would hope that she knows I do this from Love not out of obligation.  Yes, she can sometimes be a pain… but she is NEVER a burden.  So to any of you youngsters (or oldsters) that are contemplating starting a relationship, think of this…if the person you are with or thinking of being with is not worth this kind of effort, then maybe you should reconsider.  Even with this, I cannot conceive of anything I would rather be doing than helping to make my wife’s journey easier.  I would wish that she were not going through this, but this is the hand we’ve been dealt and with God’s blessings we will persevere.  (Pass this along, those of you who may know someone who needs to see this)

So in closing,

The Lord bless you and protect you; the Lord make his face to shine on you, and be gracious to you; The Lord look with favor on you and give you peace; Numbers 6:24-26

We Love you and thank you and pray for you,

Floyd and Pat

Marcie commented  11/16/2010 06:55 am

Your posts are simply beautiful!  Love to you and my little cousin, I will miss seeing you and Pat at mom’s “Home Going Celebration”, but I know your thoughts, love and prayers will be there with us!

Thank you Floyd! Mama was truly a “Prayer Warrior”, one of God’s angels and my best friend!

Yard Dog commented  11/15/2010 10:52 pm

If I am asked by someone, “should I get married?”, I will tell them of your dedication to Pat. Then I’ll ask if they r willing 2 do d same.

“B” “B” commented  11/15/2010 04:36 pm

The answer to the Big Stick Popsicle Question…11.904761904762 minutes